Many of us have this false belief that if we judge, criticize or berate ourselves, it will motivate us to get our work done. But it helps to understand why that is not the case, before we can start learning how to switch over to a more positive self-talk.

Each time something difficult happens to you, your brain will immediately write a story about it. However, this automatic interpretation is completely optional. So how do you want to think about this on purpose? As a victim or as a hero? You always get to choose.

We tend to grow up thinking that situations cause our feelings… I’m scared because I’m about to get a shot. But that’s never the case. That fear is not generated by the sharp needle or the looming painful shot. Rather something different entirely… which thankfully happens to always be in our control.

Thankfully, the way us humans have been programmed is that there is a way to check whether an action we want to take will be sustainable, or just use up our willpower. And this one step is so simple, yet the most important.

The pursuit of pleasure has perpetuated the survival of our species for thousands of years - giving us meaning and a sense of direction. And this system has worked great - until our brains met our modern world. So now what?!

Many of us Moms, at one point or another notice something in our daughters that trigger us in a way that we are flooded with concern, which then open the gates to doomed thoughts about her future. And then in our desperate attempt to show up as a good mom, we actually compound her problems. But in order to get relief and help her along her journey, you’ll want to learn to connect in a different way.

As we know, our daughters won’t inherit a perfect world from us. But even in turbulent times there is an unstoppable force available to us, that if we learn to harness properly, we can offer hope, a healing, or put a creation out into the world. What an opportunity the world offers us in 2021, to practice generating this power.

We tend to set ourselves up for failure from the moment our daughter is born… and this one thing makes it so that we usually don’t feel good enough as a Mom, and forever out of reach of the world’s approval. But if you can make this one little shift, you can actually rock your parenting… your own unique way.

When I ask a girl, what do you think about yourself? She looks to her thoughts. And she usually thinks that she is just observing the truth, when she is answering me. But her thoughts don’t just rise up from the depths of truth inside of her. Rather, she is taught to think a certain way.