HOW TO STEP INTO HER POWER… AFTER A MEAN COMMENT

When someone tells your daughter:

Your face is ugly.

You look like a boy.

You are too tall. Too fat. Or just too much.

Those words are coming from pain. They are coming from boredom.

And we can’t stop the world from telling her how to be.

How to look.

How to act… in order to be acceptable.

But that’s okay.

Because her power lies not in controlling the world around her, but instead controlling how she reacts to anything that happens to her.

So if someone says:

“Your face is ugly.”

And then she answers: “I know. But you should see my Mom’s face!”

It takes the drama out of it. There is nowhere to go… if she just agrees.

And she agrees, not because she believes it.

But rather, because she realizes that it’s pointless to argue.

To fight.

To convince.

Because all of that just gives her power away.

Because what that mean commenter wants the most is for her to be UPSET!

BUT IF SHE DOESN’T GET UPSET…

YOUR DAUGHTER GETS TO WIN.

And just walk away.