INSTEAD OF PURSUING HAPPINESS…

There is a confusion in our society about why we have our human lives.

And your daughter is sold a story,

that FINDING HAPPINESS is the ultimate goal!

And if she were to come to her life and approach it from the motivation to be happy, she'll most likely go through her life trying to figure out what she needs to accumulate, what she needs to do, how she needs to act and be, in order to land at this place called happiness and live happily ever after.

However, if you think about it, she never comes to you and says,

“Let’s read the book of happily ever after.”

And that’s because there are no good stories in there.

Nothing new, exciting, gritty or magical happens.

Because at happily ever after there is NOTHING that ignites you inside.

You are just content and happy that everything is so great.

And when you understand that happiness is caused by your thoughts in your brain, you can actually find a way to be happy about anything in the world.

And this is actually NOT the most difficult thing to do.

But the problem is, that when you feel happy about what’s going on in the world, you won’t have any motivation to change it or take action towards improving it.

Because you’ll just be content and happy with it all – climate change, injustice, abuse, your current existence.

So the point of our lives is not to land in happiness and stay in contentedness forever…

But rather, pursue your ALIVENESS instead.

BECAUSE YOU HAVE SOMETHING

THAT NOBODY ELSE CAN BRING TO THE WORLD.

You are a unique human, with unique experiences, DNA, brain, knowledge, thoughts, intuition and connections.

And if you are sitting in the corner watching Netflix feeling happy, we will miss it.

We will miss that which is you, as part of the contribution to the overall evolution of humankind.

So I would like to invite you to explore the nooks and crannies, possibilities and impossibilities, the pathways and the journeys that are unlimited in your life.

Many of which might take you through some negative emotion.

Many of which might take you through pain and discomfort...

But through those journeys, pathways and failures, you will find out what you are made of, you will find out who you really are, and you will most likely be delighted by what it means to be you right now in this world.

So when I ask you what you want for your daughter, be careful not to just default to -

I want her to be happy.

Because being happy,

relative to what else is possible in her life, is easy.

What’s much harder, yet has the power to ignite a deep sense of well-being that is way beyond happiness, is to embolden her to pursue her aliveness.