GIRL POWER: Her Source

To help your daughter become the powerful girl you know she can be, she needs to first learn where this power actually comes from.

Because our brains tend to believe that certain people are just naturally born with this sense of girl power or an air of self-confidence.

And if your daughter perhaps feels like she wasn’t, then her brain might tell her that if only she would…

win that coveted competition,

or get into that top school,

be chosen for the lead role,

get a hundred likes,

look a certain way,

or be a part of that popular clique…

then she would finally join the ranks of confident girls.

Because our brains tend to put up goal posts to make us believe that we need to DO MORE, BE BETTER, AND ACHIEVE OUR GOALS…

in order to reach that coveted confidence.

But this is the very long way to go about it…

And most likely won’t even work.

Because if you were to look around yourself, you can probably meet Kindergarteners who can barely spell their names, full of confidence.

And PhD students, Oscar winners, Olympic athletes, full of self-doubt.

The reason for this is that your power, and how you show up in the world, doesn’t depend on how much you have achieved, what family you come from, or whether you can even spell your name correctly or not.

Rather, the way you show up – whether with power or self-doubt - is always determined by the thoughts that you are thinking.

And these THOUGHTS end up being the CODE that your daughter runs her life on…

So it is these thoughts that determine the way she FEELS about herself and the world around her, which then generate all the ACTIONS she decides to take.

I’m sure you’ve all heard that confidence for girls peaks sometime before puberty…

And what actually ends up happening are

changes in the THOUGHTS

that your daughter is thinking.

Her brain is programmed to pick up sentences from the world around her, from social media, her peers, teachers, parents… which become more pertinent as she gets ready to leave the nest of childhood.

And for girls, the sentences she inherits can be endless reminders of society’s expectations of girls: 

Don’t make a mistake.

Get good grades.

Look a certain way.

Be nice.

Follow rules.

Achieve more.

Be a good girl.

Don’t stand out from the crowd!

So the individual shift can go in elementary school from “I make friends really easily,” all the way to “I feel like everybody is so smart and pretty and I’m just this ugly girl without friends” by middle school or high school - based on a survey of 1300 girls between the ages of 8-18.

So as your daughter’s brain starts the shift to puberty, she needs to learn how to navigate her world with continued power.

Because her life runs on her THOUGHTS.  

And if we want just as many girls to describe themselves the same as boys:

“I am confident, strong, adventurous and fearless…”

then she needs to learn how to make sense of the evolving sentences in her brain that guide her every move in life.