LEARN HOW TO

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TO VIEW THE PREZI SLIDES BELOW, HOVER YOUR CURSOR OVER THE IMAGE, AND A LITTLE CIRCLE SHOULD POP UP ON THE RIGHT SIDE, WHICH YOU CAN THEN CLICK ON TO ENLARGE.

For many of us, some of the actions we want to take in our lives is a frustrating struggle between willpower and guilt. But it really doesn’t have to be like that. Once you understand what ultimately fuels your actions - and it’s not (just) coffee - you find you have an unlimited amount of power and control over the actions you do want to take.

In theory, stopping to overeat is very simple. You just don’t eat more than your body needs to stay healthy. What’s actually hard about it is what happens when we do stop… your body protests against it with urges and cravings, while your thoughts demand that you absolutely must eat that cake for your survival! So here we uncover over-hunger and over-desire, the two reasons why we overeat in the first place, and of course how to stop.

As a society, we drink. But our desire for alcohol is actually not something that’s innate in us. Rather, it is something that we learned and repeated over and over again, programming our primitive brain to desire it subconsciously. The good news is that since you created this over-desire in the first place, you are also the one who can “un-create” it, if you’d like. Here we delve into the 4 steps of how to do just that.

Pleasure is our evolutionary motivator that guide our brain to pursue survival. And it’s been a perfect system for thousands of years… until our primitive brains met our modern world. So here we dive into this concept of buffering, where we learn how to pursue the pleasures that direct us toward our goals, instead of losing our way in “false pleasures.”

There are no classes offered at this point in colleges or high schools that teach us how to be emotional adults. While we mature in many ways as we age, emotionally is usually not one of them. So many of us were raised to believe that our feelings are caused by the external world, which makes us feel totally powerless. We then seek instant gratification and try to control others and the world around us, in order to make ourselves feel better. But to get your power back, you actually never have to look outside of yourself.

Our brains only want us to set little goals… that we pretty much know how to achieve, based on our past successes - a new degree, a new house perhaps… that sort of thing. But to set a big audacious goal that thrills as well as frightens you, you have to evolve into the best version of yourself in order to achieve it. Imagine the journey, the trials and errors, and who you would become by the end of it. Want to meet this future you one day?

How many people do you know who truly enjoy being themselves? It’s a disappointing number, right? It’s because all humans have the same problem… we all have an idea of how it is “supposed” to be. And all these negative thoughts become so tiresome and overwhelming that we learn to escape from them in 2 ways: people-pleasing others and people pleasing ourselves, looking for pleasure wherever we can. But thankfully, there is a way to stop and really start enjoying being you.

We all have an instruction manual for the world, for how others should behave and perhaps how we should be treated. However, there is a way to be happier more of the time - even when others may not follow our manuals or live up to our expectations.